Many couples find themselves in similar situations. Their relationship started out so well and then one day that connection has gone. This can be for many reasons:
>Lifecycle changes – arrival of children, desire to start a family, loss of loved ones, empty nesting, retirement
> Trust issues
> External factors – work issues, redundancy, unemployment, financial issues
> Family issues – step parenting, in-laws, dependant family members
> Health issues – mental health, disability, physical illness
> Cultural and religious beliefs
> Sexual identity
> Difficult issues from the past
As a result, you may find yourselves:
> Unable to communicate
> Having intimacy and sexual difficulties
> Feeling alone/unsupported
> Feeling angry and/or hurt
Couples often describe to me repeating patterns of behaviour that seem difficult to break. Listening to and understanding each other becomes almost impossible. But exploring your issues through counselling, in a safe and confidential environment, can enable you to find a way forward.
It can feel very scary for couples to open up and start to talk about their innermost feelings. However, by exploring the dynamics of your relationship and understanding each other’s emotions, thoughts and behaviours I can help you re-connect and rebuild your relationship, where that is right for you.
Where this is not possible I can help you look at what separation or divorce might look like, including some of the practical issues and how to tell and support your children.