Many couples find themselves in similar situations.¬† Their relationship started out so well and then one day that connection has gone.¬†This can be for many reasons:
>Lifecycle changes ‚Äì arrival of children, desire to start a family, loss of loved ones, empty nesting, retirement
> Trust issues
> External factors ‚Äì work issues, redundancy, unemployment, financial issues
> Family issues ‚Äì step parenting, in-laws, dependant family members
> Health issues ‚Äì mental health, disability, physical illness
> Cultural and religious beliefs
> Sexual identity
> Difficult issues from the past
As a result, you may find yourselves:
> Unable to communicate
> Having intimacy and sexual difficulties
> Feeling alone/unsupported
> Feeling angry and/or hurt
Couples often describe to me repeating patterns of behaviour that seem difficult to break.¬† Listening to and understanding each other becomes almost impossible.¬† But exploring your issues through counselling, in a safe and confidential environment, can enable you to find a way forward.
It can feel very scary for couples to open up and start to talk about their innermost feelings.¬† However, by exploring the dynamics of your relationship and understanding each other‚Äôs emotions, thoughts and behaviours I can help you re-connect and rebuild your relationship, where that is right for you.
Where this is not possible I can help you look at what separation or divorce might look like, including some of the practical issues and how to tell and support your children.